Getting out of your head
As much as it feels like I can think my way to success, this is what I’ve noticed:
The really good stuff happens only when I get out of my own head.
Flow, where I forget about time, and my writing or speaking or playing music feels effortless, only happens when I stop trying to do it right and allow some inner knowing to have its way.
Inspiration, where the ideas and words and impulses that are usually so amorphous become solid enough to grasp and mold into being, always comes when I am looking elsewhere.
Love, where I am curious and compassionate and receptive to being loved by others, cannot be bullied by my mind. It requires an empty and open vessel to fill.
So why do we spend so much time in our own heads, where the primary pay-off is the chronic stress that comes from lack of clarity?
Why? Because, in the absence of knowing how to move into flow, inspiration and love, we compensate with action - any action. So we are astoundingly (and proudly) “busy” - and stressed.
“If we knew better we would do better” is a familiar - if inaccurate - aphorism. You know the small actions that get you out of your head: mindfulness, presentness, meditation, appreciation, and changing your incessant internal dialogue.
The question is, will you have the courage - and the wisdom - to stop moving long enough (5 minutes? 10?) to allow your quiet mind to see differently?